It’s Just Lunch, so Don’t Bring That Baggage
Let’s take Jack and Jill for example. When I heard their feedback, I realized they were both guilty of the same dating don’t. Let’s see how both Jack and Jill, misunderstood what it means to be genuine, on this DC date…
While it’s important to be honest, this does not mean bringing all of your baggage to your dates, especially the first date. We all have lives, we certainly all have pasts, families, and past relationships. No one expects you not to. But if you lead with your past, you are not giving the person across the table from you the opportunity to get to know you first.
Krista White Matchmaker wants your to understand that not involving your date in every single aspect of your life is in no way dishonest. The first date is about getting to know the other person. You need to allow yourself to be seen as an individual. If you lead with your baggage, the only thing your DC date will remember about you is that baggage. Give yourself a shot.
Topics appropriate for first dates are most effective when kept light and positive. Once you have both gotten to know a bit about each other, then you can begin to let them into your life.
If you find yourself leading with other things in your life, and bringing this to the date, you may want to ask yourself, “Is this what I think that I am worth? Is this who I think I am?”
Have you ever found yourself telling your first date too much? Do you think you are being “fake” if you don’t disclose all of your baggage?